"I'm there for you"
"Call me anytime"
"My door is always open for you"
"You can talk to me"
Such kind words, are they not?
One suicide and everyone says these
Except just saying them
makes no difference.
Do you think a depressed human will walk up to you and say - "I'm depressed, dear friend, help me"
Having the courage, the consciousness to admit mental illness is not everyone's game.
And if they do,
would you carry
the responsibility of those kind words you said?
Those words
Carry a lot of weight
A big claim.
Those words mean
loving bruised battered hearts,
telling them to have hope when they can see only the end,
wiping tears away until your own hands taste like tears
To care the way you would
for a loved one with a broken limb.
Being there for someone is not childs play
it's a tough task
A million times more difficult than caring for someone with a physical illness.
And what is worse than someone who says they are there for you
and then, actually, they are never there.
Don't make promises you cannot keep
claims you cannot heed
words that resonate with emptiness
false hope
Or say it, say you'll be there
And then - be there, for real.
